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"Don't Pray for Me." - What are atheists afraid of?

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I remember an interview with the late Christopher Hitchens, in which his illness had already advanced a lot. He was vehement that he did not like the idea of religious people praying for him.

(EDIT: Correction - Apparently I must have been thinking of someone else and in my mind conflated that person with Hitchens. See post below.)

My question is: Why? If you don't believe in God, what does it matter that a person prays for you? It can't affect you. At most it may give peace of mind to the person doing the act. It may be a marker of good will, an indication that theists and atheists can support one another rather than tear each other apart.

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Dimmesdale wrote: Mon May 20, 2024 9:19 pmI remember an interview with the late Christopher Hitchens, in which his illness had already advanced a lot. He was vehement that he did not like the idea of religious people praying for him.

My question is: Why? If you don't believe in God, what does it matter that a person prays for you? It can't affect you. At most it may give peace of mind to the person doing the act. It may be a marker of good will, an indication that theists and atheists can support one another rather than tear each other apart.

It may be beside the point, but you got your facts off 180° in your example of Hitchens.

He and Hitchens had actually debated religion publicly before Hitchens fell ill and have become good friends. ''I won't say he doesn't pray for me, because I think he probably does; but he doesn't discuss it with me.'' Hitchens's attitude to people praying for him could be described as a mixture of polite gratitude for their consideration and a determined refusal to let it sway his opinions.


https://www.smh.com.au/entertainment/bo ... 1d6gf.html

But despite your specific example being false, let's assume there are people who don't want to be prayed for. Like Hitchens I would appreciate the consideration, but other than that, it would have no effect on me... other than I might be pleased if your prayer made you happy.

The only "don't pray for me" I understand probably comes from not appreciating it when it is condescendingly offered outloud.

Like it says in Matthew 6, "Let your prayers be silent, to God, not public, seeking reward." (DPV)

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Diogenes wrote: Mon May 20, 2024 10:38 pm

Dimmesdale wrote: Mon May 20, 2024 9:19 pmI remember an interview with the late Christopher Hitchens, in which his illness had already advanced a lot. He was vehement that he did not like the idea of religious people praying for him.

My question is: Why? If you don't believe in God, what does it matter that a person prays for you? It can't affect you. At most it may give peace of mind to the person doing the act. It may be a marker of good will, an indication that theists and atheists can support one another rather than tear each other apart.

It may be beside the point, but you got your facts off 180° in your example of Hitchens.

He and Hitchens had actually debated religion publicly before Hitchens fell ill and have become good friends. ''I won't say he doesn't pray for me, because I think he probably does; but he doesn't discuss it with me.'' Hitchens's attitude to people praying for him could be described as a mixture of polite gratitude for their consideration and a determined refusal to let it sway his opinions.


https://www.smh.com.au/entertainment/bo ... 1d6gf.html

But despite your specific example being false, let's assume there are people who don't want to be prayed for. Like Hitchens I would appreciate the consideration, but other than that, it would have no effect on me... other than I might be pleased if your prayer made you happy.

The only "don't pray for me" I understand probably comes from not appreciating it when it is condescendingly offered outloud.

Like it says in Matthew 6, "Let your prayers be silent, to God, not public, seeking reward." (DPV)

Oh. That comes as a bit of a shock to me. I would have to dredge my memory, then, I must have conflated him with someone else.

Thank you for the correction. I will edit the initial post.

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Dimmesdale wrote: Mon May 20, 2024 9:19 pmIf you don't believe in God, what does it matter that a person prays for you? It can't affect you.

It most certainly can and not in a good way:

Prayers don't help heart surgery patients; Some fare worse when prayed for

"Not only that, but patients who knew that others were praying for them fared worse than those who did not receive such spiritual support, or who did but were not aware of it."

https://phys.org/news/2006-04-prayers-d ... ients.html

A bit of research is in order before one makes a false claim such as, "It can't effect you." in an attempt to bash atheists. I'm not even sure why bashing atheists is such a common practice of theists. You'd think they'd be secure in their beliefs and not need such behavior used to assuage their doubt. Very odd.

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Tcg wrote: Thu May 23, 2024 11:13 am

Dimmesdale wrote: Mon May 20, 2024 9:19 pmIf you don't believe in God, what does it matter that a person prays for you? It can't affect you.

It most certainly can and not in a good way:

Prayers don't help heart surgery patients; Some fare worse when prayed for

"Not only that, but patients who knew that others were praying for them fared worse than those who did not receive such spiritual support, or who did but were not aware of it."

https://phys.org/news/2006-04-prayers-d ... ients.html

A bit of research is in order before one makes a false claim such as, "It can't effect you." in an attempt to bash atheists. I'm not even sure why bashing atheists is such a common practice of theists. You'd think they'd be secure in their beliefs and not need such behavior used to assuage their doubt. Very odd.

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Well, I'm not saying "it can't effect you." But assuming the atheist does not believe in any supernatural effect that prayer has, why should he be anxious about it?

From a naturalistic perspective, I'd say prayer can effect one negatively just the same way as heavy metal music, or perhaps high speed traffic, can.

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"Don't Pray for Me."  - What are atheists afraid of? (2024)

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What is the atheist version of prayer? ›

May all beings have happiness and the cause of happiness. May they be free of suffering and the cause of suffering. May they never be disassociated from the supreme happiness which is without suffering. May they remain in the boundless equanimity, free from both attachment to close ones and rejection of others.

How do atheists not believe in God? ›

'Atheists do not believe in God because they see no good evidence that such a deity exists. This falls short of full proof but it is fundamentally an evidence-based position. ' The philosopher Bertrand Russell proposed a thought experiment to illustrate the burden of proof.

What is the serenity prayer for atheists? ›

Is There A Non-religious Version Of The Serenity Prayer? The serenity prayer can be used by both religious and non-religious people. However, some may prefer to use a version that goes as: “Grant me the serenity to accept what I cannot change, the courage to change what I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

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9) claims that the problem of evil is a kind of “moral protest.” In asking “How could God let this happen?” people are often claiming “It's not fair that God has let this happen.” Many atheists try to turn the existence of evil and suffering into an argument against the existence of God.

What is God according to atheist? ›

An atheist denies the existence of God. As it is frequently said, atheists believe that it is false that God exists, or that God's existence is a speculative hypothesis of an extremely low order of probability. Yet it remains the case that such a characterization of atheism is inadequate in other ways.

What is the atheist version of bless you? ›

So I learned from my atheist grandmother to say “Gesundheit,” or, literally, “health.” It's not a blessing. It's not a prayer. It's just a wish. An expression of goodwill.

What do atheists believe in after death? ›

Atheists believe that there is no God and no life after death and that death is the cessation of the existence of the individual. Agnostics & atheists have reported having near-death experiences.

What is it called when you believe in God but don't go to church? ›

What is it called when you believe in God but not religion? A belief in God but not religion falls under the category of agnostic theism. The belief in God exists, but there may be a rejection of the institutional orthodoxy and orthopraxy of the religion.

Can you be an atheist and believe in Jesus? ›

Although Jesus is still a central feature of Christian atheism, Hamilton said that to the Christian atheist, Jesus as a historical or supernatural figure is not the foundation of faith; instead, Jesus is a "place to be, a standpoint".

How many atheists pray? ›

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Seldom/never1%93%

What is an agnostic prayer? ›

The Agnostic's Prayer

Insofar as I may be heard by anything, which may or may not care what I say, I ask, if it matters, that you be forgiven for anything you may have done or failed to do which requires forgiveness.

Is the Serenity Prayer a real prayer? ›

The prayer was originally composed by Protestant theologian Reinhold Niebuhr in the early 1930s. Initially popularized by one of his colleagues, the prayer began to spread widely without reference to the original author. Around 1932, Niebuhr is reported to have first used the prayer as the last part of a longer prayer.

What is the golden rule of atheist? ›

Treat others as you would like others to treat you (positive or directive form) Do not treat others in ways that you would not like to be treated (negative or prohibitive form)

How do atheists explain suffering? ›

Atheists might go even further and say that suffering is proof that God doesn't exist at all. Some people believe that suffering happens because of karma, the belief that all actions have consequences in this life or the next.

What is the sin of atheism? ›

The Catechism of the Catholic Church identifies atheism as a violation of the First Commandment, calling it "a sin against the virtue of religion".

Can you pray without believing in God? ›

But even for those who do not believe in God, prayer is still a winning proposition. It still centers your heart and attention on what is most important. It still forces your eyes to focus on the invisible rather than the visible. It still causes you to remember that true joy is found in relationships.

What is an example of a secular prayer? ›

Secular/Humanist

With every breath, we share this world. May we always feel our connection to those suffering, and to all in our world. May they find resilience in memories of the suffering they've faced before and in the power offered by their connection to others. We trust in the love and support of those near us.

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